I only want to talk – is this possible?
Yes, absolutely. I work on a spectrum, and we can move up and down this spectrum, or stay where we are.
From talk-only, to talk and somatic, to non-sexual touch, to full body touch to nudity and erotic touch including arousal and possibility of orgasm.
You are welcome to work with me ANYWHERE ON THIS SPECTRUM. And you will always decide where you want to be.
Is it therapy?
I am not a qualified psychotherapist or counsellor, but I am therapeutically orientated. I work on the basis that touch and pleasure can be healing and therapeutic. As human beings when we interact and touch each other, and experience connection and the experience of being seen and heard, this is therapeutic. Being erotically seen, heard, and accepted can therefore be erotically healing. One way touch from practitioner to client within boundaries makes a useful ‘practice space’.
If I do not feel I can meet your needs, I may be able to signpost you to someone who can, and am happy to work with you alongside your counsellor in some cases.
If I choose bodywork, what is the purpose and is it about me having sexual pleasure?
Bodywork can be fully clothed and non-erotic. But, sometimes, we decide together to do bodywork which involves education AND pleasure; you will be learning AND you can experience pleasure in our sessions.
We always negotiate what you want to learn and how my touch and bodywork will help you learn what you want to learn.
If sensual or erotic pleasure is part of the experience for you, we will also reflect on ‘what did you learn to take away from this’.
What safeguards are in place for clients?
As a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, I adhere to the following code of conduct for bodywork and intimate touch:
- I wear nitrile Gloves for intimate touch
- I remain fully clothed
- One way touch from practitioner to client.
- A clear, explicit agreement made before the bodywork, clarity about the purpose, and that it is for the benefit of the client.
To view/download the Quintimacy Boundary Statement, click here.
We always talk openly and explicitly about what work we are agreeing to do together; safety and informed consent is absolute priority.
There is no nudity or genital touch during a first session.
I work in a trauma-informed way at all times.
I am insured by BGI insurance.
I am committed to ethical practice and have regular mentoring and supervision to reflect on my own work.
My services are only for adults over the age of 18.